I got an internship on campus. I'm helping out the sociology department with a domestic violence campaign. It's great because I'm working with three fellow pr majors that I love ^_^.
As for love I have learned to take it as it comes. I was getting to know someone (JO) and it turned out to be a bad idea. Oh well, I learned and noticed how much patience I have now. (GO ME!) Honestly, I don't mind if a person works long hours throughout the week and we barely see each other, it's the little things that get to me. As stated in a previous blog or Facebook status (can't remember which I posted this in) there are 24 hours in a day, if you didn't get to something it's because you didn't want to. A simple "Goodmorning" or "goodnight" text every other day wouldn't hurt. I'm not needy, I just like to hear from the person I'm talking to once in a while. One thing I've come to value, honesty. I give it, why can't someone else return the favor? I don't know if he was/is talking to someone else, I just wish he would say it. A friend told me I shouldn't be so honest with the people I date. I disagree. What if I get into a serious relationship with them? Then what do I do? Do I tell them I was lying about not seeing someone else? How about the other(s)? Do I tell them "I got serious with someone" when they didn't know I was dating someone else? Or do I just ignore their phone calls/ texts and expect them to get the picture? I would feel terrible. I wouldn't be able to do any of the above. Being honest is the only way to avoid future problems. I know women in relationships unhappy but because they WANT someone choose to settle. No, thank you. I rather be alone then "in a relationship" and unhappy.
This year I've learned something about relationships. A friend told me about "not having titles" and I was against the idea at first. When I started to hear his reasons I started to agree. However, it went in one ear and out the other. Before dating JO I was dating someone because I enjoyed his company. He was "in a relationship" and it didn't bother me. What bothered me was not being the only person he was seeing (I wasn't second, I was third). The part that got to me was how it wasn't anything special, no matter how great he made me feel. Then I started to look into it, and I thought how he's just being honest with me. It's my decision whether or not to stick around. I don't have to if I don't feel comfortable. With time I got used to it, started seeing others as well, but they weren't honest and made me miss him. We're still friends today, and I'm thankful for having someone like him in my life. If I ever need to vent, he's there. ^_^
While dating JO I adapted the mentality of No Titles, Just Love. Something I learned from my friend and Mr. Taken. When people have titles, society has an idea of how people in a relationship/ married/ single should act.
In a relationship: Must be dedicated, spend as much time as possible with them (depending on the type of relationship i.e. person is needy)
Married: Must be in love and dedicated no matter what (even if the person argues daily)
Single: Should go out as much as possible, hook-up with the world and not have a care in the world.
With titles you're performing. It isn't who you are. I believe a title shouldn't define what two people have. Now, I am not knocking down marriage. Never that! Marriage is beautiful, for those who can truly love each other and work out issues through discussions rather than arguments
(That's another issue: people who argue for the sake of getting their point across. --I believe in discussions. Approach your partner about something when the time is right and with the best tone. NOT YELLING! No one likes yelling).
Too many people in unsatisfied relationships stay because they feel the other person will be upset or hurt themselves. There should be an understanding that if things don't work out (given that both parties have tried everything) there shouldn't be a guilt. It should be as if a weight has been lifted from both of your shoulders. Breathe, nothing lasts forever. Take it from the buddhists. "Nothing is permanent."
To be single is to appreciate what you have to offer to the world. And technically, everyone is single. Who you choose to spend your time with must accept you for who you are and all the great things you can bring into a relationship.
As for sense of humor: I can't think of anything but
-Love always,
Tima :)
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